Somethings in this life are just straight up hard. But God said things for us would not be easy, that would not be life.
There in things in life that are worth fighting for; your friends, your family or even love. That last part sounds like something out of a movie, but when you actually experience those deep emotions for another person; it becomes a reality. When faced with a situation that requires a large amount of determination, courage and action; the truth of the matter is that it will hard. It demands so much of the people involved. I am in a situation like this and to be real, it's taking so much of my determination and courage; but I'm not going to give up when things get hard. I know that when I am done facing this trial, I'll come out of it changed, having learned something and happy. But with every trial baby steps are a must and have been the hardest part so far; even though I am still enduring this trial, I know it is far from over.
"Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life; which God has promised to those that love him." James 1:12
God puts us through trials that He knows we can handle. God loves everything good and even though we may see the situation as "Why would God let this happen to me?" or " I wish it was over so I can get to outcome and feel better" God is working with us, through us in the trials we face in our lives. And even though we are facing these trials and we may feel alone, God is always with us. He endured what we are enduring, He knows how we are feeling and that's why we need to turn to Him in our times of need. It is also a smart idea to go to someone whom you trust who is older; like a parent or a leader of the church. Sometimes going to your peers will hinder you more than help you.
And with that said (as a side note) Be careful to whom you tell your inner most thoughts, secrets or even joys with. We are all human, and we all use or mouths for good and evil. Sometimes things are just left better unsaid and kept to yourself or kept between the people involved.
And I tell you this, that you must give an account on judgment day of every idle word you speak. (Matthew 12:36)
But when we turn to God, we can tell him our joys, thoughts, inner most secrets and we know he will keep them safe.
Do you want to be counted wise, to build a reputation for wisdom? Here's what you do: Live well, live wisely, live humbly. It's the way you live, not the way you talk, that counts. Mean-spirited ambition isn't wisdom. Boasting that you are wise isn't wisdom. Twisting the truth to make yourselves sound wise isn't wisdom. It's the furthest thing from wisdom—it's animal cunning, devilish conniving. Whenever you're trying to look better than others or get the better of others, things fall apart and everyone ends up at the others' throats.
Real wisdom, God's wisdom, begins with a holy life and is characterized by getting along with others. It is gentle and reasonable, overflowing with mercy and blessings, not hot one day and cold the next, not two-faced. You can develop a healthy, robust community that lives right with God and enjoy its results only if you do the hard work of getting along with each other, treating each other with dignity and honor. (James 3:17-18)